Do you suffer from a lack of confidence at work? Do you need to improve your self-esteem? Do you spend hours trawling through self esteem quotes and self help books, trying to make yourself feel better? This one’s for you, our top ten quick tips about how to improve self confidence in the workplace.
How to be more confident at work – 10 tips
Look good, feel better
It’s hard to feel professional, serous and confident in jeans and a ratty t-shirt. Looking the part is a quick and simple way to help you feel the part, even if you’re working on your own or at home.
Stash your ego, boost your confidence
You might feel everyone’s looking at you, talking about you behind your back, watching your every move in case you make a mistake. But they aren’t. People are far too busy dealing with their own stuff to spend time picking over what you do and don’t do.
Stand tall and walk purposefully
It sounds silly but standing up straight really does help. You look taller and can breathe more deeply than when you’re all scrunched up. And walking purposefully makes you look and feel a whole lot more definite, less wishy-washy.
Stand up for yourself
Customers can be horrible. And they are definitely not always right. If someone is giving you a hard time, stand up for yourself. Do it in the politest and nicest way and you won’t cause offence. Quite the opposite, and it’ll make you feel fantastic. If they get all huffy, it’s their loss and not your fault.
Are you one of those people who goes around ranting in your head about how rubbish you are? No wonder your self confidence is suffering. Be aware what you’re doing, listen to yourself and change your internal dialogue to a positive rant instead. It’ll make a huge difference once you get the hang of it.
Write a list of the things you’re not so good at…
…and plan how to improve them methodically, one by one. Taking action is helpful in itself rather than staying passively miserable. As Thomas Carlyle said, “Nothing builds self-esteem and self-confidence like accomplishment.”
It’s easy to panic and try to change your inner ‘you’ to suit other people’s expectations. But it’s impossible. You are who you are. Forget what other people might and might not expect from you. Just be yourself.
Perfection doesn’t exist
If you think the person at the next desk has got everything right and have achieved workplace perfection, get a grip. They will probably feel just as farty as you do, maybe even worse. There’s no such thing as perfect. And wouldn’t the world be a revolting place if there was!
Someone very clever once said, “Whatever we expect with confidence becomes our own self-fulfilling prophecy.” You don’t have to wait for circumstances, yourself or anything else to change before you feel more confident. Pretending helps you actually become what you’re pretending to be. Make believe you’re happy and you will be. Make believe you’re more confident and it’ll become so.
Why the long face? (as the barman said to the horse). A lighter state of mind puts you in a state where the right actions are easier to achieve. The more seriously you take your perceived shortcomings, the worse you’ll feel. A lighter heart makes it much easier to tackle scary tasks and avoid mad mistakes.
Do you have any good confidence tips?
Have you turned the corner from being someone with low self esteem to someone who knows exactly how to build confidence? If you’ve taken great strides in self development, we’d love to hear about how you did it.